Sep 29
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Tuesday, September 29, 2009 in
adult / sex, commentaryI came across a short article in Die Presse, a German newspaper. I put it through the Babelfish translator and got the gist of what Til Schweiger, the oh-so-hot actor who plays the German officer who has a penchant for killing his superiors and later helps the Basterds in Inglourious Basterds, believes.
The summary: Monogamy is stupid. Why does man strive for freedom in any other realm besides women?
This doesn’t preclude marriage, as he was married for ten years to a woman with whom he had four children, but it does mean “I’m married” need never be an excuse to turn down a passionate fling or even another relationship, if you’ve got the time. I personally came to the conclusion that monogamy didn’t make sense when I was seventeen and had read Fear of Flying by Erica Jong. A quote stuck in my head ‘which read something like, “It was the great deceit of marriage. Leaving the one you really want to fuck sitting there, and going up with the man you married, pretending he’s the one you really want to fuck.” Something my jazz dance teacher told me also molded my beliefs. “If I could combine my husband and my dance partner into one man, they’d make the perfect husband.” Why should one man contain everything you want in a partner? He doesn’t deserve those unrealistic expectations and neither do you.
Marriage can be a great thing, especially when it’s not so restrictive. I’m not advocating fucking everything in sight, and you can certainly voluntarily be monogamous for years without its being wrong. It’s just that forever tends to breed resentment and lethargy. And there are certain things you never learn about a person, connections that are made, only in the bedroom. And I, for one, am a richer person for it.
Til Schweiger and I versus monogamy
I came across a short article in Die Presse, a German newspaper. I put it through the Babelfish translator and got the gist of what Til Schweiger, the oh-so-hot actor who plays the German officer who has a penchant for killing his superiors and later helps the Basterds in Inglourious Basterds, believes.
The summary: Monogamy is stupid. Why does man strive for freedom in any other realm besides women?
This doesn’t preclude marriage, as he was married for ten years to a woman with whom he had four children, but it does mean “I’m married” need never be an excuse to turn down a passionate fling or even another relationship, if you’ve got the time. I personally came to the conclusion that monogamy didn’t make sense when I was seventeen and had read Fear of Flying by Erica Jong. A quote stuck in my head ‘which read something like, “It was the great deceit of marriage. Leaving the one you really want to fuck sitting there, and going up with the man you married, pretending he’s the one you really want to fuck.” Something my jazz dance teacher told me also molded my beliefs. “If I could combine my husband and my dance partner into one man, they’d make the perfect husband.” Why should one man contain everything you want in a partner? He doesn’t deserve those unrealistic expectations and neither do you.
Marriage can be a great thing, especially when it’s not so restrictive. I’m not advocating fucking everything in sight, and you can certainly voluntarily be monogamous for years without its being wrong. It’s just that forever tends to breed resentment and lethargy. And there are certain things you never learn about a person, connections that are made, only in the bedroom. And I, for one, am a richer person for it.